There are many reasons as to why you should use a dildo. These sex toys are versatile and can be used in a variety of ways. Males and females can take advantage of these devices for maximum pleasure, not only for their partners but for themselves as well.
While dildos still remain taboo for a large number of people, there has been a surge in their popularity in recent decades, primarily due to film and pop culture. In fact, research has shown that 3 out of every 4 women in the United States have owned or have at least used a dildo in their life, with age demographics not being a particular factor in the distribution of owners and users.
This translates to billions of dollars in sales each year, with numbers expecting to rise until the foreseeable future.
Dildos are inexpensive and pretty easy to use. However, there’s a lot to know about dildos that you may not be aware of. Proper usage does not only relate to ensuring maximum pleasure but making sure that you are able to use it safely as well. Here is everything that you need to know about dildos and how you can play well and safe under any circumstance.
What are Dildos?
Dildos have been in existence for over 30,000 years. Objects resembling dildos have been found in different locations all over the world, with literature and carvings pertaining to these objects being widely discovered as well. Aside from sexual pleasure, dildos have also be used in rituals, primarily for womanhood rites as well as for worship of gods.
Dildos used in ancient times can be made up of different types of materials, with the most common being polished stone, mainly limestone. Others were made out of less conventional materials such as wood, bone, buffalo horns, and even leather.
Today, dildos come in all shapes and sizes, as well as composition. The modern dildo was created using rubber with a spring inside to give it a form of stiffness that would make penetration easier. Now, dildos can be comprised of one or more materials, which may include but are not limited to:
- PVC
- Jelly
- Silicone
- Metal
- Glass
- Cyberskin
In some cases, food products such as bananas, cucumbers, eggplants, and even hot dogs can be used as dildos with varying levels of success. Soda bottles and other objects may also be used to a certain degree, although these are often frowned upon due to safety considerations.
As for shape, any elongated form is acceptable when it comes to dildos, although some manufacturers do make a considerable effort in ensuring that their products are as lifelike and anatomically accurate as possible. As such, while some dildos are simple long tubes with rounded ends, others look like a real penis, complete with veins and even scrotums.
Sizes vary for dildos, as well, with lengths and girths being variable depending on the manufacturer as well as consumers’ needs. Dildos can be anywhere from four inches to longer in length, with 4 to 6-inch circumferences being the norm.
While some dildos have attachments that allow it to vibrate, dildos are different from vibrators as the latter functions more for stimulation rather than penetration. Plugs are also different from dildos as these are designed to stay in place rather than for repeated penetration.
Dildos can also have additional features such as having ribbed surfaces, two heads for simultaneous use, strap-on functionalities, or even suction cups so that these can be attached to a wall or floor for hands-free use.
How Do You Use a Dildo?
Dildos are pretty simple devices, although some precautions must be undertaken in order to ensure health and safety. Proper use can also help you maximize the pleasure that you can get from these devices. Here are some of the things that you should know and do before, during, and after using a dildo either on your own or with a partner.
Get the Right Dildo for You
A dildo that is too small may not get you aroused as it may not stimulate the correct parts of your body. On the other hand, getting something too large may make the experience uncomfortable or painful. Something slightly above or equal to the size, in both length and girth, that you are used to is advised. You can work your way up once you are used to the size of your current dildo and would like to try something more.
Choosing the right dildo will also apply to the texture, shape, and even color of the product that you are selecting. There are also some additional functionalities that you can choose. While some of these attributes would be a matter of personal preference, others would depend on how you would be using your dildo of choice. Things that you should consider would be whether you would be using it alone or with a partner, as well as whether you would use it one at a time or simultaneously.
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Check Your Dildo for Damage
Your dildo should not have any damage in any way. Due to different factors such as manufacturing flaws, age, or misuse, your dildo may crack, tear, or have weak spots that can detach and get lodged into you. Rough edges may also cause abrasions which can lead to wounds, scrapes, or abrasions that can then lead to infection. If you see any sign of damage to your dildo, throw it away and do not attempt to use it anymore.
Prepare the Mood
Whether you are using a dildo or not, it is important to have the proper ambiance to make the experience more satisfactory. Start with a luxurious bath and light some candles or aromatherapy sticks. Dim the lights and play some sensual music in the background. This will make the environment very sensual which would provide you with a nicer experience with your dildo even if you are using it alone.
Avoid Using Food as a Dildo
While possible, food products like cucumbers can be used as dildos in a pinch. However, this is not recommended simply because they are not designed to be used as such. They are also quite unhygienic and may contact pests that can contaminate you. Lastly, cucumbers or bananas can break off, and removing it can be a pain. As such, avoid using food as makeshift dildos. Rather, purchase another dildo as a spare as they are relatively cheap anyway.
Lubricate Your Dildo
Always use a personal lubricant on the dildo itself as well as within and outside where you will be using it. Ensure that you are using lubes that are designed for the body and not for any other purpose. Use water based lubricants and replenish as needed. Lubricants will ensure smooth movement and avoid scraping of the skin which may lead to injury.
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Use Condoms, If Desired
Condoms are recommended for a variety of reasons, even for dildos. First, this makes the dildo easier to clean. Secondly, it helps in preventing sexually transmitted diseases especially if you have multiple partners that you will be using the dildo with.
Lastly, condoms can help prevent allergic reactions to the dildo material, especially if your dildo is made out of silicone or rubber. The use of condoms is also highly recommended if your dildo is made out of a porous material such as jelly.
Start Slowly
When using a dildo, do not go at it vigorously from the start, regardless of where you would be putting it in or how used you are to the dildo. Just like actual sex, you would need to get warmed up a bit first in order to lubricate the proper holes naturally.
Taking it easy will allow you to slowly get accustomed to your dildo as well as to your partner if any. You will slowly be able to get into the rhythm, specifically the tempo and depth of your thrusts. Taking your time will also get you more comfortable with the concept of using a dildo for your mutual pleasure and satisfaction.
Don’t Be Afraid to Experiment
Once you are used to your dildo, then do not be afraid to make the most out of your toy. Try and make your thrusts deeper and faster, and don’t be afraid to thrust at angles to stimulate your G-spot. If your partner is comfortable with it, you can use it for some anal play. Surprisingly, those with male partners sometimes do not mind having a dildo in their anus, for as long as they are confident in their sexuality.
Still, always take note of personal boundaries and, before intercourse, have a set of rules on the things that you can or cannot do. Always have permission before doing something in bed so that there would be no problems encountered during your sex sessions. In some cases, especially during BDSM, safewords can be introduced in order for partners to know when enough is enough.
Add Some Stimulation
Thrusting your dildo in and out of yourself or your partner monotonously can be, bluntly speaking, pretty boring. In order to avoid this, add additional stimulation to the act. This can involve some kissing, fondling, and caressing. Stimulating the G-spot is highly recommended, and this can easily be done by the thumb while thrusting. Some dildos even have attachments for doing just this. In addition, putting other toys such as vibrators or butt plugs can add additional pleasure to the act.
Avoid Ass to Pussy or Ass to Mouth Usage
Bacteria from the anus can easily transfer to other parts of the body and can be detrimental to your health. Avoid transferring the use of the dildo to other parts of the body such as the vagina or the mouth once it has gone into the anus or even its immediate vicinity. If this is not avoidable, then consider using a condom and replacing it one you are done with the anus. This will ensure that your dildo is still relatively clean and would not infect you or transfer fecal matter and other bacteria to yourself or your partner.
Clean Your Dildo Afterwards
Once you are done with your dildo, you should clean it thoroughly. This is to ensure that dirt, bacteria, and foreign materials are completely removed from the object. Cleaning your dildo can be done in a variety of ways, but it can be done primarily with soap and water. Wet wipes that are anti-bacterial and contain at least 70% alcohol are best to kill any germs that may stick to the dildo.
Boiling is also an acceptable method of cleaning your dildo. Of course, the method of cleaning should depend on the material and composition of your dildo. Those with electronic parts should never be submerged in water, and high heat can cause some plastics to be deformed. Also, avoid placing your dildo in the dishwater to clean it as the high heat may cause some damage. The use of abrasive materials is also not recommended as this may cause tears or cracks that will make your dildo not good for future use.
Store Your Dildo Properly
Once your dildo has been thoroughly cleaned, make sure that it is dried properly using a clean, dry cloth. If your dildo is battery operated, you should make it a point to also remove any batteries. Store your dildo in a clean and dry place and cover it with a clean cloth or plastic bag. This will ensure that dust and dirt will not get to your dildo and it would be ready for use again should you desire to do so. However, it would also be a good idea to clean your dildo before use as well so that you are sure that it is perfectly sanitized.
Conclusion
Having a dildo can be a really fun and unique experience. It can provide you with pleasure and excitement that you will not get with the usual type of sex. Whether you are using this alone, with a partner, or with a variety of other sex toys, adding a dildo into play can be pleasurable for as long as you use it as intended.